tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post3043999104409823854..comments2024-03-01T07:24:14.288+10:00Comments on Jeanie in Paradise: Calling a lie a lifeskilljeaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17322709527738134797noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-57357578546596974632008-04-25T22:02:00.000+10:002008-04-25T22:02:00.000+10:00Yep, the old santa clause lie! It really annoys m...Yep, the old santa clause lie! It really annoys me cause that damn fat red guy gets all the credit for my fantastic present buying! Grrrrrr!<BR/><BR/>And hey, I told my daughter that I was 22 once and for the next 3 years she honestly believed that I was 23, 24 and 25! Hey, who was I to burst her bubble???!!!!Brissiemum2https://www.blogger.com/profile/11933172169962612609noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-4974049229301473552008-04-25T15:48:00.000+10:002008-04-25T15:48:00.000+10:00Okay - if you really believe I am 29, I have a bri...Okay - if you really believe I am 29, I have a bridge to sell. <BR/><BR/>It is called creative truth, I believe.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for all the comments all - am (truthfully) away from my own computer at the moment (by about 250km) so - so nice to see everyone came and pondered!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-43606124919536351782008-04-25T11:36:00.000+10:002008-04-25T11:36:00.000+10:00Great post and Happy Birthday!What is 29 again? :P...Great post and Happy Birthday!<BR/>What is 29 again? :PJaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13887495757366973130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-13517223537611082172008-04-25T11:27:00.000+10:002008-04-25T11:27:00.000+10:00What a thoughtful post.I have always excelled at l...What a thoughtful post.<BR/>I have always excelled at lying. Strange to say that out loud.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13158409505328990008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-10402837562411191922008-04-25T08:54:00.000+10:002008-04-25T08:54:00.000+10:00I'm not really comfortable with the lying about sa...I'm not really comfortable with the lying about santa and easter bunny. I guess I do it because so many other people do it and it was done to me when I was a kid. And sometimes it's easier not to explain to everyone your family situation.Jen at Semantically drivenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14643066498784270991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-55178347346266290792008-04-25T00:26:00.001+10:002008-04-25T00:26:00.001+10:00First of all ...YEA! I have your blog address aga...First of all ...YEA! I have your blog address again! Happy day for me! Now I have to catch up. :)<BR/><BR/>I'm not a good liar either, except to myself.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-63637404690863904702008-04-25T00:26:00.000+10:002008-04-25T00:26:00.000+10:00Happy Birthday!! Your not old. I t did depress me ...Happy Birthday!! Your not old. I t did depress me this morning to realize I'm old enough to be your mother.<BR/><BR/>I don't think there is any reason to explain your family situation to every stranger. When people I see a lot but don't know say you sure have that grandbaby alot. I just smile and nod.mommamiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12776580811028926584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-39096619681712589102008-04-24T23:05:00.000+10:002008-04-24T23:05:00.000+10:00WOW! What a can of worms! Since the "family" or ...WOW! What a can of worms! Since the "family" or not condition of several of your commentors hit on that issue, it seems to me that it takes too much time/detail to explain that, "well, no, this child and this child are "X-one's" and this child is "X-two's" and no, sorry this husband is not the father of any of my children, but he has a dozen by 3 other X's. Too Much Information! Not really anyone else's business. So, not handing out vital statistics to those who assume things--good grief! Not an issue. Keep it simple, ya' know!<BR/><BR/>But, the whole Easter Bunny, Santa, Tooth Fairy thing . . . Fantasy is part of the magic of childhood, isn't it? How many books do you/have you read to your children (or other people's children) that are simply pure fabricated fiction. You enjoy the fantasy as do the children. They eventually will realize that it is simply fiction, and that's okay. It helps them find happiness and to see life a little differently.<BR/><BR/>Now, to out-and-out lies that are intended to mislead, distort the truth, cause others grief, get yourself off the hook or others in trouble--well--there's your real can of worms. THAT don't fly in a court room, obviously--unless the lie is not refuted, caught, etc. (Forget I mentioned that arena.)<BR/><BR/>Jeanie--what the heck prompted such a deep subject anyway? You just wanted us all to spend hours of self-reflection and self recrimination . . .<BR/><BR/>Hey, I suppose we could use a little of that from time to time. Maybe the key is . . . intent. Hmmmm. That CAN be a qualifier . . . More contemplation is needed here.<BR/><BR/>Hope the birthday was great----and that's no lie!Pencil Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09754663050624125557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-35158268979083832142008-04-24T22:39:00.000+10:002008-04-24T22:39:00.000+10:00I was an overly dramatic exaggerator and I never c...I was an overly dramatic exaggerator and I never considered it lying although I believed everything I said. Rather I wanted to believe everything I said, so the other stuff about my life couldn't be true.<BR/><BR/>Children do tend to see the line more clearly between blatant lie, white lie and social omissions. <BR/><BR/>It is definitely a learned skill to perfect the telling of half truths.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-4325897907909402272008-04-24T21:54:00.000+10:002008-04-24T21:54:00.000+10:0029...we'll talk in a decade. :)Happy Birthday!Some...29...we'll talk in a decade. :)<BR/><BR/>Happy Birthday!<BR/><BR/>Someone made the point that usually we lie, even the social nicety lies, to protect ourselves. <BR/><BR/>Since that's a base instinct, I can work with that.<BR/><BR/>When people come out of childhood guilty about any lies and "horrible liars" I wonder if life never created the necessity for them to lie, up to that point.<BR/><BR/>KWIM?<BR/><BR/>I came out of childhood a Class A liar. And I lied for the usual reason.<BR/><BR/>Great post!Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-50208629375103052522008-04-24T19:49:00.000+10:002008-04-24T19:49:00.000+10:0029. I'll never see 29 again. However I still see m...29. I'll never see 29 again. However I still see myself as young. I don't see that as lying to myself. I don't know WHAT that's called, to tell the truth. <BR/><BR/>There is no need for total strangers to know every truth about us. The only people that need the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth are your very dearest friends.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09531125606268748793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-48555322372723307222008-04-24T16:01:00.000+10:002008-04-24T16:01:00.000+10:00if you are 29 you are young and sexy! Jeesh girl,...if you are 29 you are young and sexy! Jeesh girl, I've got ya by 15 years or so.<BR/><BR/>Happy birthday. Relish your youth and your child's innocence. Try to enjoy each day as it happens. :)Crazed Nitwithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09433413927453925851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-71675776267168968002008-04-24T14:27:00.000+10:002008-04-24T14:27:00.000+10:00Happy 29th to you J in P. I can relate to yours an...Happy 29th to you J in P. I can relate to yours and Bettina's blended family predicament - I have four children, two ex husbands and a husband that all four of my kids love. The youngest child wishes he was his Dad and goes along with it when others make the assumption that we are an in tact family.<BR/><BR/>Social perceptions of white and blatant lies are so interesting....as are perceptions about what a "decent" family looks like.<BR/> <BR/>When I was about 9, I stole 21 cents from my mothers purse to buy a tube of sweetened condensed milk. Even though the crime was long ago confessed and it is now an immortalised family story, I still cringe that I lied and stole.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37871177.post-83268362542962744152008-04-24T10:53:00.000+10:002008-04-24T10:53:00.000+10:00I had a reputation for being one of the best off t...I had a reputation for being one of the best off the cuff bullshit artists known to man in my teens.......... lol I didn't get up to that much stuff to lie about. Honestly! <BR/><BR/>That said......... I completely understand about the family thing. People look at my kids and presume Miss Lou is my hubby's because they both were dark, curly haired. It was so easy to just smile and nod and not say a thing and be a 'normal' family for 10 seconds with strangers. Sigh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com