Wednesday, May 06, 2026

Social

 I am generally a pretty private person. On a scale I would see myself as a maybe six in sociability. I do get energized with a certain amount of people but too many - like a party - or too chaotic - like a party - has me seeking quiet corners or escape.


It's where and why I used to write so much before kids.


One or two people that I click with - perfect. A half dozen friends of friends - small doses.

Fifty family. An hour or two, but looking for a quiet role by the second.




Holding court - if I have a role or am performing no problem at all. But never when ill-prepared or put on the spot.

Family members one on one - eminently doable. I love most of my big wide family one-on-one. It's when you throw more people into mix. Same with friends.


Alone. Bliss. As long as there is a book or a pen and paper I am made. Kitchen. Ingredients. Yes please.


I have written a true account of people that I know for a funeral on Friday. It will be given then.


What about you? What people mix works best for you?


8 comments:

Kelly said...

The fewer, the better. I can usually do what is expected of me, but have to decompress afterward. Pet that kitty for me.

Linda's Relaxing Lair said...

Dear Jeanie, please give the beautiful cat a hug from me. Lovely photos, dear friend.
I am also a private person and although I do love people, I don't like large crowds or lots of noise.

Andrew said...

Very much as you. There is a family dinner at a hotel on Saturday night, for over thirty people. That's going to be rough.

River said...

Family-everyone. Other people? no more than a handful or less. And I don't mind if they all talk without input from me.

Jeanie said...

I'm very good alone (that comes with growing up as an only child) or one-on-one-to-four people! If I know them well, I'm good in what I call a small crowd of good friends (up to 12 or so, but good friends, not just anyone!). After tht, I have to go into on my theatre mode for big groups!

Debby said...

You know. It changes. I think most it is dictated by me. I am a self conscious person. When that selfconsciousness is at its worst, I don't want to be around anyone. Even knowing the cause doesn't change me or my social anxiety. I am a weirdo.

gz said...

Alone or one to one here...but more family gatherings needed!

Bohemian said...

I'm Nice to everyone and close to few. I spend more time with Loved Ones than with Friends or random people in Society. I like most People, I just feel that relationships require investment and I don't have that much time or energy to spread thinner cultivating that kind of Social construct. Some folks may be needy and consume too much of what I have to give, so I'd rather have many acquaintances that are pleasant and brief. I know a lot of lovely people, in Real Life and in the Land of Blog, but I'm not all that much into Socializing with any of them, it's more situational and I'm fine with that. Even with Family, a certain amount of balance with togetherness and apartness is crucial for me.